Playing The Minimalism Game

This month I am doing it – I am playing The Minimalism Game.

The Minimalism Game

If you’re not familiar with The Minimalism Game, it’s a month-long challenge to get rid of your excess stuff. On Day 1, out goes one thing; on Day 2, out goes two things and on and on until Day 30, when out goes 30 things. That’s 564 things in total if you keep going for the whole month. You can find out more about the game on The Minimalists website.

But why?

Why am I doing this? Hmmmm, I suspect from around Day 15 that’s a question I will be asking myself quite a bit! In a nutshell, I’m messy, my husband’s tidy and we live in a small house – it works better with less stuff.

We’ve been living in our current home for three years this month and lately I’ve noticed that I spend quite a bit of time rummaging through stuff to find other stuff. I know we have stuff that we haven’t touched in the last three years. Our spare room has become a dumping ground and recently was so packed that at one point I could only stand in the doorway. I have made some great progress in there but I’ve only done the easy stuff. I need to do the hard stuff and so I am playing The Minimalist Game for motivation.

What I want to achieve

For me, it’s not really about the numbers, but at the same time it’s all about the numbers.

I want to attack some clutter hot spots: the spare room, my desk, the pantry and what my husband calls “The Pile” next to my bedside table. Whether I need to get rid of 200 or 500 or 1000 things to achieve that is beside the point.

But at the same time, getting rid of 564 things in a month is really going to test my relationship with stuff. There is definitely a bit of hoarder in me. I find it hard to throw stuff away and I want to understand a bit more about why. It will be this understanding, rather than the total of the number of things I have managed to get rid of that will be the real success for me.

I’ll post weekly updates throughout the month, so if you want to join in, just keep a tally of how you are doing and post your progress below.

Updates

The week of the Wii – The Minimalist Game Days 1 to 7

Help I’m hoarding for the environment – The Minimalist Game Days 8 to 14

The cost of free stuff – The Minimalist Game Days 15 to 21

Be the change – The Minimalist Game Days 22 to 30

Do you have an inner hoarder or are you more of a minimalist? What are your clutter hot spots?

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Staying home and remaining sane

I’ve been both a working mum and a stay at home mum and they each have their difficulties. I’m fortunate that I have a choice and I’m happy with the choices I’ve made. That’s not to say that I love every minute.

The challenge

Right now I am a stay at home mum. One of my motivations to leave work was to stop the rushing and have time to enjoy life, rather than just survive. One of my biggest challenges now is that I have all the time in the world, but often not much control over how I spend it.

The rhythm of my day is driven (if not dictated) by my little one. He is my constant companion and, at times, a fairly demanding one. This is what it is and that is how it’s going to be. I accept that, but I also acknowledge that it can be draining.

Staying sane

What I’ve learnt as a parent is that, even control freaks like me have to let go a bit. Everyone tells you that, but it really is true. Even with your best efforts you can’t make every day a good day. From my experience trying to will just leave you exhausted and probably some combination of demoralised, frustrated and grumpy – if not just plain angry.

However you can set yourself up for better days – the best possible day come what may. I’ve found two things that really help me set myself up for better days. I feel that I can recommend these things as:

  • I am not naturally inclined to do either of them, but have consciously adopted them with effort.
  • I’ve gone through phases with and without them and with is definitely better.
  • They don’t cost anything and you can do them however you want.

Both are simple, but not always easy! So what are they?

  1.  Get up before your kids

Even if it is only five minutes earlier (although I find a bit longer than that better), get up before your kids. I am a big fan of sleep and I’ve never been an early riser. However, a bit of quiet time to myself in the mornings to do whatever I want is invaluable. It lets me wake up slowly and peacefully, without a little one under my feet. I may be at the mercy of my child’s nap times and meal times and other needs and wants, but when I start the day with control of the time that I wake and get up it is always a better day.

  1. Exercise

Some kind of intentional movement just to get the body moving, heart pumping and lungs working, it doesn’t have to be much. It doesn’t have to be a big deal – just find somewhere to fit something into your day. I always thought I didn’t like exercise, but actually, once I started exercising regularly, I found I really do – mostly for the way it makes me feel after I have done it. The trick is finding something that you enjoy and is not a chore. My favourite is workout videos on YouTube – there is such a variety it’s almost impossible not to find something you like. Plus no-one can see me!

 I offer these tips in the spirit of helpfulness, as things that work for me. The last thing I want to do is add to your list of “shoulds”. If you are struggling with long days and lack of control over your time, hopefully this will provide some inspiration to help you find the things that work for you in setting yourself up for better days.

Do you sometimes struggle with long days with the kids? What helps you set yourself up for a good day?

Is FOMO ruining your money mojo?

Is FOMO ruining your money mojo?

I get loads of email, loads, and a large chunk of them are advertising. In an effort to save money I’d signed up to receive the latest offers from, well it would seem just about everybody. I follow them on Facebook too, just so I don’t miss out.

It seems that I have a case of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) and it’s costing me money. If you find yourself hovering over the unsubscribe link but feel a sudden angst you may be afflicted too. The good news is, I’m getting past it and I’ve got some tips so that you can too.

FOMO: Fear of Missing Out (on bargains!)

Fear of missing out is something I am sure all of us have experienced in some way at some time. In the age of social media it’s known as FOMO, and is most commonly associated with millenials. Seeing their peers lives played out in real time across Instagram and Twitter, stokes feelings of anxiety and indecision in FOMO suffers who lose enjoyment in what they are doing to constant obsessing over what they might be missing out on.

FOMO in the digital age plays out somewhat differently for me. I’m not afraid of missing the party of the century – I’m afraid of missing the bargain of the century.

In my circles, it’s all about bargains. When we talk buying stuff we talk bargains, savings, deals. I mean what sucker pays full price these days/ When someone says “nice skirt”, what do you reply? NOT “oh thanks, I paid full retail for it”! To keep up I subscribe to emails from all sorts of stores, daily deal and group buying sites.

The price of buying into bargain hunting

 Since the financial crisis of 2008, bargain hunting has really come to the fore. It’s okay to be cheap, in fact it’s kind of insensitive not to be. Marketers keep us buying more by convincing us of the great savings.

In buying into this culture, I’ve created a big problem for myself. You see, I also buy into believing that materialism is not the answer, that mindless over-consumption is ruining our lives and our planet. So yeah, there’s some conflict there. Constantly trying to reconcile it is exhausting.

Over-spending and over-accumulation isn’t the worst part of the problem for me. It’s the self denial! Sure I make the occasional impulse purchase but its not out of control. For the most part I am good at resisting. And that is the problem – the resisting. It takes a lot of energy to resist. These offers are tempting, they lead me to want stuff, to desire stuff, and then deny myself. Over and over again. You can only deny yourself so often and then surely you deserve it, right? Marketers 1, Self 0.

Taking back control of your bargain-hunting

To get out of this cycle of temptation, self denial, capitulation and guilt I needed a new approach. I wanted a way I could shop around online, without ending up just shopping.

From my experience, here are three things you can do to take control of your bargain hunting.

  1. Unsubscribe from email offers and Facebook too!

Remember the old adage “the deal of a lifetime comes along once a week”. How much will you really be missing out on?

Unsubscribing was liberating, but also somewhat angsty. I haven’t unsubscribed from everything. The weekly specials at my supermarket are really handy for meal planning. There are a few places that have genuine sales a few times a year for kids clothes, shoes and toys that I plan around, so I kept those.

Another area of concern for me was missing out on discount vouchers for local family attractions. So instead of voucher sites, which send me all kinds of other offers, I am following the attractions I visit and want to visit directly. They’ll let me know about the deals I want without wasting energy on the other stuff. I did miss out on a half price deal at the zoo the other day – but no great loss and I am sure there will be another one soon.

  1. Write a shopping list

Yes, the object is to buy less. How does writing a shopping list help? It’s all about getting intentional about your spending. I now have lists for my clothes, major household items, kids clothes and kids equipment. When writing and revising these lists I think about what I need: do I really need it? Do I need it now? What priority is it compared to other things?

Having it written down keeps me focused on my priorities, not those of marketers. I stick to comparing prices for the stuff on the list only (mostly!). Writing the list also gives time for reflection before purchasing – I’ve been surprised that if I just wait it turns out that I don’t need the stuff I thought I needed after all, and I get along just as comfortably without it.

  1. Apply the “stranger test”

The “stranger test” is a quick and easy one to clarify your priorities. If you’re about to make a purchase, especially an impulse purchase, and you have some doubt ask yourself this: If a stranger came and offered me the value of the item I am about to purchase in cash, what would I want – the cash or the item?

Am I over my FOMO? Maybe a little, but not really. Instead I’ve accepted it and in doing so gained some of power back. I’ve acknowledged it as a weak spot and from there developed some simple strategies that, in the face of FOMO, help me keep my money mojo.

Are you a bargain hunter? What strategies do you use to stop yourself over buying?